Kourtney, you seem like such a nice person. Please forgive my unsolicited advice, but I watch your show and just cringe at the marriage wrecking decisions you make with Scott.
You have the bad habit of sacrifice and capitulation. This is a renters trait that leads to incompatibility and resentment. You and Scott make many win/lose decisions instead of looking for win/win solutions.
I am watching you tell your mother that you should have no vote about Scott’s purchase of helicopter even though that decision obviously affects you in so many ways. On another show I see him going to a bikini party. You didn’t feel comfortable with that [because you see the risks as would any sane person] Everything he does and everything you do affect each other, so when he makes unilateral decisions without taking your feelings into account, unhappiness ensues. That is how incompatible relationships are created.
A better approach is to never make decisions unless you are both enthusiastic about them. That way you are not creating an unhappy, incompatible lifestyle.
It stands out to me from watching you that you seem depressed and I understand why. When women are depressed, it is almost always because of their relationship. Your incompatible relationship would depress most people. The fact that Scott does not take your feelings into account makes your relationship a very unhappy place.
If you want to change the dynamic in your relationship, a good book is Buyers, Renters and Freeloaders by Dr Willard Harley.
I will add that your concept of “control” is mixed up. It is controlling to make someone do something. [such as your mothers attempt to FORCE Scott to go on a motorcycle ride - he had sold the bike] It is NOT controlling to not allow someone to force YOU to do something. For example, if Scott tried to force you to accept a helicopter, that would be controlling. It is not controlling to object to his control.
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